As the United States of America celebrates it's 242nd year of Independence from England, I wonder what do you want to be independent from? What does independence mean to you? How does it impact you now that you are somehow dependent on something/someone outside of yourself? These are of course just the beginning questions I would ask you if you were sitting on my couch.
I would say that most of my clients come initially to experience some sort of independence, whether it be freedom from PTSD, loneliness, addiction and/or dysfunctional habits. We all have them, something to be independent from. You see if we are chained to archaic connections like the now United States was to England, it is very challenging to flourish, if not down right impossible. It is the same for us, we can not continue to be ruled by obsolete rules imposed by a society and humans who themselves walked around with untreated wounds. If we do, we suffer the consequence of never realizing our true selves.
Had the now US not have the courage to wage a war to gain it's independence from it's parent country, we would not now have this amazingly colorful, rebellious, adventurous and arguably great country.
I would venture to say that our own personal independence to whatever chains us allows us the opportunity for an amazingly colorful, rebellious, adventurous and great life.
I am not saying that we start a war with our parents or our families, but independence does mean having to honestly look at our relationships with these very important and flawed humans, as we all are.
Wrangling our independence isn't easy or fast, like with most things that are beautiful, IT IS A PROCESS. Our independence from England wasn't won over night.
The process of independence begins with questioning without judgement, just questioning with curiosity. Allow your independence to begin here...
“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an of rebellion”