Codependency is the veil that covers our true selves, like the lace that shields the beauty of a bride. What would your true beauty look like without this veil?
Codependency is born out of a child's needs to survive. When a child is raised in an environment that is not child-centered, where his emotional needs are not met, codependency can develop. The child learns that to get his needs met, he must first meet his care-givers' needs. He learns to lose his voice, disregard his own boundaries, dismiss his needs and acquiesce to adults around him to survive. He also learns to control his environment by being the care giver, the provider, the go-getter, the planner, and the git-r-done kinda' person. That's right. Codependents are the "strongest," most reliable people out there. Some codependents will literally die for you. What's wrong with this you say? A lot, the codependent does all of the above at the cost of forsaking himself. Ask him who he is, he has no idea. The hallmark of a codependent is his lack of his own adaptive self-care and lack of self-awareness, a life lesson he picked up as a child. They tend to cross their own emotional boundaries simply because they don't know how to say "No." Codependents can be compared to a modern day saint, but with an extra added resentment, be it visible or hidden.
A substantial amount of the healing of a codependent is centered around boundaries, defining and defending his boundaries, establishing boundaries, having the vocabulary to speak his boundaries, etc.
The next step then would be to create new ways of being and interacting with the world. and yourself.
Healing from codependency not only frees us from our untruths but it also reconnects us from parts of ourselves we once rejected. Learn more about codependency because your life may depend on it.
“A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her and is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior ”